By Gary, on December 9th, 2011
My holiday stress seems to originate from early in my childhood. Not that the holidays were bad or anything. There was just something inside me that created the stress, “what am I going to get?” was a big one. The other stressors came along later. Too many things to do: church programs, school concerts, parties, decorating, too little rest, too much commercialism, spending too much, way too many television and media holiday advertisements, getting and giving too much.
Each year I would lose the spirit of the season and succumb to the pressures of the season. I would usually become depressed and irritated, get sick, get headaches, etc. I would distance myself and cut myself off from those around me.
Now there are death anniversaries of loved ones, too.
I tried something different last year. I decided to “change my mind”. To let others enjoy the season in the way they want to do it and allow myself to enjoy the season the way I could do it. Funny thing. Such a simple change of mind created in me a peace, a sense of contentment about the holiday season – such that I hadn’t had before.
I am using this again this year. So far, so good!